Why I Decided to be Single & Celibate

Let’s get real and talk about SINGLENESS. If you didn’t already hear from my recent Instagram (@iamasadugger) post, I left my relationship of 3+ years to be single and celibate. Our breakup didn’t result from cheating, toxic relations or anything crazy… I just came to a point in my faith where I was tired wrestling with my worldly desires and my purity for Christ.

We both made the conscious decision to end the relationship and to respect each other’s decision. When I first decided to be celibate in 2016, I didn’t have a clear reason behind my decision. But as time passed, I realized I wanted to honor my life and body to Christ (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Although, it was a mature decision I’ll be honest, it’s been hard. Really hard. I mean we had plans of getting married and moving in together in the next couple of years! Even writing this is a struggle but I know God is faithful and He know’s the desires of my heart. During this time, I’ve dedicated my free time to serving in ministry, reading more of the Word and investing in my personal brand(s). In the times of my doubts and tears, I cry out my favorite song ‘Abba’ by Jonathan David Helser. The scripture that I’ve kept close to my heart during this break up is Romans 8:26

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.”

Here’s 5 Things You’ll Learn While Being Single & Celibate:

1. There’s a difference between a GOD ORDAINED and a COMPATIBLE relationship. A relationship is meant to be a ministry. You should be pushing each other to be everything God is calling you both to be.

2. You can be unequally yoked with another Believer. Everyone is on a different walk in their faith. It’s important to be spiritually mature before hopping in a relationship.

3. Purity isn’t just a decision. It’s a lifestyle. It’s more than just your sex life. God want’s us to be pure in our actions, intentions and thoughts. Philippians 4:8

4. LET IT OUT. Don’t hold in what you’re feeling. The best thing to do is talk about it to someone you trust. Allow yourself to feel the pain from the relationship so you can heal. Know that God is Jehovah Rapha, He WILL heal the pain.

5. God’s love is greater than any other love. If you hide yourself in Him, He will grant you peace that surpasses all understanding. Philippians 4:7

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